Ryuchell says, "Children's failures are welcome" Deep reasons "Self -affirmation", "SNS bullying" "Failure"

"I don't like the word self -affirmation."

"Self -affirmation" is a frequent keyword even in childcare books overflowing.The tendency of raising a child who can affirm himself has become stronger recently.Ryuchell is received as "glittering and positive happy mind owner" and is often asked about self -affirmation in interviews, but "I don't really like the word" self -affirmation "."

"Certainly it would be easier if you like yourself, and you may be positive when you get involved with people. But there are some parts where the road spreads, but it depends on the nature and environment.One day suddenly, it's difficult to be told to like yourself. I wonder if you need to like yourself in the first place. In my SNS, people who are worried about it are contacted.There are many, but if you have a hard time trying to like yourself, you can stop, and you don't have to like it. "

RYUCHELL, who has many pages about self -affirmation, even if he has no choice but to live in such a world.He uses the word "pamper yourself" instead of the word self -affirmation, as well as self -affirmation.He says that it is very important to convey the "unconditional love" to children, which are so -called self -affirmation.

『こんな世の中で生きていくしかないなら』（朝日新聞出版）

"When I got a childcare therapist, I heard that there were very few parents who told their children, saying," When you were born, your dad and mom were very happy. "It was. Even though everyone thought in my heart, I didn't do anything to tell me, but I think it's important to say it in words because it's natural. Every day.Before going to bed, I think it's very important to keep telling unconditional love, saying, "I'm just happy to be there," and giving the child's heart to the core affection. "

But on the other hand, Ryuchell continued.

"Even if you grow up with love like that, you may not be able to love yourself. I have such an era, so I understand well. I want you to not blame yourself if you are worried or depressed.。 Because the super ball once arrives on the floor, it will always come up! Rather, it's rather strong because you are depressed.I want to tell you that it's okay if you try to like yourself, or don't feel painful, you don't have to fall and like yourself. "

つねに、いろいろな立場の人の目線に立った意見を伝えてくれるryuchellさん。繰り出される言葉はよどみがなく、温かい

About diversity that ryuchell thinks

Ryuchell, who has studied childcare therapists and has a childcare theory somewhere.Ryuchell himself has said in her book that her parents grew up with their personality.It is said that many people are longing for RYUCHELL's appearance, and many people are worried that they have no individuality.However, from Ryuchell's point of view, "no one has no personality."Even if you are worried that you can't live like yourself, or you are just influenced by being swept away, and when you think that you have no personality, that's what you choose.He says that is the person's personality.However, it seems that he was able to value his personality in such a high school days.How did you spend time in school?

"I think Okinawan schools were very free to look back on. There are many foreign and Japanese couples in Okinawa, and many children have published religion and LGBTQ. The school rules are compared to Tokyo.However, I think the atmosphere is very loose and the atmosphere is completely different. Still, it may seem surprising, but when I was in junior high school, I had a so -called mask and I couldn't get my true self.Was loose, but the upper and lower relationships of seniors and juniors were very strict, and they were worried about human relationships, hiding their true self, and lived around like the air, but at one point.I thought I didn't like it. From there, it was in high school when I started to take the exam in a place where I had no acquaintance in junior high school. "

Okinawa was originally a local pattern and was full of diversity.However, in the school, he felt the difficulty of being recognized for "diversity" and "individuality".

"For example, I adjusted the number of children with white parents and the number of children with black parents in the class, but I felt uncomfortable.I felt the difficulty of seeing it from junior high school. It continued to be an adult, and I felt that it was a lot that it was judged by "appearance". I started on TV.At the time, I was just beaten because I was dressed in a flashy style, and I was told a lot, "The child had a child". But I was paying a lot of taxes! (Laughs).If you look at the gal, you can judge just by dress and say, "I don't seem to pay water charges" (laughs).

It is not so easy for everyone to recognize the differences between each other.

"Because it's not easy, I think there are aspects that have to incorporate certain rules such as school rules in schools. Also, there are also children who are comfortable with everyone. In a world with such certain rules, the rails are the rails.Children who jump out are always treated as a steamed person, but I may be particularly thought of because I am in the entertainment world, but if you dare to jump out of the rails, you have achieved great success in society.Sometimes it's easy. I myself have become a member of society, and I remember being confused in a way that I couldn't teach at school.I hope we can gradually reduce each other's prejudice. "

"SNS has become an ally of my world"

Even in junior high school, when people were people and were suffering from themselves, Ryuchell did not feel like "school feels like everything", where children tend to fall.Because there was a wind hole called SNS.I started SNS in my third year of junior high school and posted my fashion.Each time it was updated, the number of followers increased, and fans increased in various places, including Tokyo.By the time he entered high school, he was already a little celebrity.

"A flashy child like me suddenly was at the high school entrance ceremony without any information, but thanks to the fact that it was already famous on SNS. That child was famous for SNS. "" That's right. "There was a feeling that was accepted easily even if it was as it was. In that sense, SNS really helped me. In junior high school, I was in high school nationwide. I was able to see a lot of seniors enjoying on SNS, so I think it was a support for my heart. So my parents and teachers can do SNS. I don't want you to decide as a reason for the reason alone. For example, I don't know Tiktok anymore, but the children who are using it now know how to associate. SNS native children. I think that I know how to use it much more than an adult thinks. I wonder if I can believe more. How do children survive using existing tools? I think it's an important education to watch the process of making it yourself. "

Still, I was worried about SNS and bullying.Ryuchell was never irrelevant to bullying on SNS.

"At the time of high 1, there was a LINE, so there was an exchange in the LINE group. Among them, I was blocked and told me something I didn't like on SNS. But I am.I was a child who could say it back. I realized when I became an adult, but people who can only say badly on SNS, who can not say in the end, who are very poor at creating human relationships.What is it? I just want to say it to such a bad person, I don't want to ignore it, and I have advised the surrounding children at the time ... but some people can't.At that time ... yeah, it's so hard ... "

Ryuchell says that bullying with SNS may be inevitable.Even if the bully becomes the news, it may happen so that it has not disappeared yet.

"That's why if SNS becomes harder, I want you to escape to whatever you want and get a distance. SNS can be very good depending on how you use it, and vice versa, so if you get stiff, you. I want you to keep a distance from SNS, such as watching your favorite videos or contacting your favorite things. After that, I think it's okay to be a curse in your heart. If you look at SNS, "Why is it?" Is there such a sparkle and do you have money? ", But when you feel like it is harder than yourself, but when I feel like that, I said," Anyway, 40 minutes to take this photo. It takes a long time (laughs). If you think in your heart, you don't bother anyone, and I think it's okay to think about that. I don't have to think at all how bad it is. It's also "pampering yourself". In the SNS era, I think it's important to acquire such skills. "

"Failure leads to child growth."

In addition to SNS, I am worried about various things for children, and I want to have a heart, but I want to have a heart.But Ryuchell consistently says that failure will grow people.

"I don't want to lay a rail to my child. As a trigger, I might say" I have this kind of thing ", but I'm definitely going to say this. I don't think it's love to prepare everything. I'm worried that my child is very cute and can't help it, so I don't want to fall at first. I was doing it, but at some point, I thought calmly and thought that people who had never failed (laughs). Did you think so? So, I got more and more and failed. I want you to be a deeper person who has seen below. If my son fails in the exam, I think I'm lucky! It's a very good opportunity to notice, and because I think it will lead to the most growth. Of course, I'm very happy if I pass, and I think I'll buy a big cake as a wedding cake. On the other hand, the failure is this child's growth. I think it's a fact that it leads to, so I'm glad I fall into either. "

The eldest son of Ryuchell and Peco is now a 3 -year -old boy.He loves dinosaurs and ballet.It was quite impressive in this world, where many parents who did not have the courage to roll their children.Let a cute child travel.

"Looking back on myself, I think that my dream is falling on the road I didn't aim for, and my life could not be predicted.I want to try myself as much as possible, and I want my son and everyone to challenge more and more, and I want to be stronger. "

ryuchell（りゅうちぇる）1995年9月29日生まれ、沖縄県出身。個性的なファッションと強烈なキャラクターで注目を集め、パートナーのpecoと多数のバラエティ番組に出演。pecoと入籍し、一児の父となった現在は、育児や、SDGs、報道番組への出演など活躍の幅を広げ、2020年よりNHK「高校講座・家庭総合」のMCを務める。自身のSNSにおける“自己肯定感”に関する発信がたびたび話題となり、21年に初の著書となる『こんな世の中で生きていくしかないなら』（朝日新聞出版）を出版

(Sentence: Miho Arima, shooting: Fumige Ogata)