My mother recommended an electromagnetic wave blocker and it was a quarrel.

Parents have been hooked on "pseudo science".Moreover, he is trying to buy a suspicious product and recommends his family.What should I do?

Mitsuriko Ukiyo, a psychological counselor, answers consultation with a female reader in her 20s who was sent to the Cariconnus.

"My mother's mother (60s) has been fighting due to" purchasing a machine that blocks electromagnetic waves ". My mother has recently begun to operate PCs every day instead of desk work.I was sick from that time. "

Eventually, the mother thought that electromagnetic waves were caused.She was introduced to a machine that blocked electromagnetic waves from her acquaintance, and had a pamphlet that usually could be bought for less than 20,000 yen for 50,000 yen.

"My mother told me," You're sick, so let's buy it? "I think it's a pseudo -science to get sick with electromagnetic waves." Why I believe that."Is it?"

"I think this fight has something wrong with my mother's hobby. My mother is a good adult and I think I should spend money on what I like. But nowI am hooked on spiritual and pseudo science so much, so I recommend it every time. "

"I think I thought I was thinking about me, but I always refused to say," I don't need it. I'm still in trouble because I recommend it every time. How can I build a good relationship with my mother in the future?"

The points of this consultation are "causes to believe in pseudo science" and "backfire effect".There are various definitions what to call "pseudo science", but such things have advertising and PR.My mother originally has "health anxiety" and believes in pseudo science to resolve.

Recently, some people support the idea that "there is no corona" and "Vaccines make DNA recombinant", but if you deny those you believe, you will deepen your beliefs."Backfire effect" works.It is thought that your mother is more intense because of that.

For families who feel a little sloppy, the electromagnetic block breaker.But what you believe is different for each person.From a counselor's point of view, it may be uncomfortable to recommend pseudo science every time, but that's because I'm worried about my daughter.

Nevertheless, the opponent is rejected and the distance is taken.If you become isolated, you will want to communicate because everyone is fine, and you tend to be addicted to simulated science and cults that call out.Perhaps it's because of lonely feelings that your mother keeps addicted to pseudo science.

In addition, if you have anxiety about your health, you will be more lonely and anxiety.What the counselor can do is to reassure parents with health anxiety.It is not a stranger organization, but by communicating yourself, your mother's loneliness will be filled.

If you are worried about what your mother is addicted, why not try a consultant to be your mother's "healthy advisor"?Specifically, if something is recommended, we will propose something that you think is safe and secure without denying that the other person has health anxiety.

for example,

"Thank you for taking care of my health. But yoga or Tai Chi!" "It seems that if you raise immunity, it will be difficult to get sick."It's good to take it because it's nutritious and nutritious. I'll buy it next time and eat it together."

While receiving the favor of the other party, please recommend something else, "This is good!"If your family is filled with communication, you will refuse to say, "My daughter will bring a recommended supplement."

The point is not to deny the other person, but to build a good relationship.Then you can say, "If you have a product that your mother is worried about (she is thinking of buying), please consult first."

Machines that your mother considered purchasing is not a big deal in terms of money.However, some people spend tens of millions of yen.This applies to other than pseudo science.The right theory doesn't make people happy.I believe that communication with consideration for the other person can solve everything.

[Respondent Profile] Idea Human Support Academy Director of Idiang Mitsuru Ukiyo, Senior Professional Psychological Counselor.She has been in charge of mental training for professional soccer J1 clubs, professional golfers, land and gymnastics, and in 2008 as a trainer in the Beijing Olympics.